If you are a fertility patient, thinking about, planning or actively in treatment, during these difficult times you have likely been confronted with disappointing changes to your plans.
We know that halting treatment goes against everything you have worked towards emotionally, physically and financially. It is in direct conflict towards your goal of building a family. It also comes after a significant amount of planning, saving and scheduling. Quite simply, it is devastating.
On top of that, there remains a tremendous amount of uncertainty. There have undoubtedly been other major changes in your life. Your social supports may now only be available through digital means. It’s a challenging time, and this kind of sudden and drastic stress can take a toll on your mental, physical and emotional health.
There has never been a greater need for simple DIY techniques to boost positivity, calm the mind, and still the body. This isn’t something that is simply good to do, it holds the same value as taking medication and nourishing the body with food.
Affirmations, done daily or multiple times a day, allow for an active meditation that can speak positive, strengthening words over the chorus of background noise in your head. This is something you can add to your day no matter how busy or slow you find the hours that pass.
Studies of the power of positive self-affirmation have been found to bring about positive outcomes such as reduced stress, increased memory, increased exercise, and even weight loss. An article in Psychology Today shares that affirmations can even help us in our efforts to implement regular handwashing and refrain from touching the face.
What is an affirmation?
Affirmations are short, powerful and simple positive statements that can help you overcome self-sabotaging and negative thoughts. Positive changes can be made when affirmations are believed in and repeated often.
How can affirmations help?
Let’s be honest – receiving advice is not nearly as powerful as something you decide to do on your own. Being given advice puts us in a passive state and can make us feel defensive, particularly around health-related information. Choosing and committing to an affirmation gives you power, and makes larger, hard-to-digest circumstances such as COVID-19 more palatable. It can also slow down the racing thoughts and worries in your mind, and quickly.
How do I do an affirmation practice?
There is no right or wrong way to do an affirmation practice. Each affirmation can be repeated five times, ten times, or more depending on what you prefer. You can change your affirmations as your needs change, and they can be modified to whatever situation arises.
Some find it helpful to do affirmations in the morning, while others like to do them throughout the day, particularly during times of stress. A nighttime affirmation practice can also help to calm the mind, making it easier to fall asleep. The most important thing is to commit to doing an affirmation practice. The more you repeat your affirmations, the stronger your belief will be, allowing for hope and mental resilience.
What should my affirmation be?
This is personal and will be different for everyone. What is the largest concern on your mind? What worries keep you up at night? An affirmation should speak directly to that fear. You can create your own affirmation, or pick from thousands that are available online.
An affirmation should start with an active statement, for example:
I am (grateful, open, strong, excited, worthy)
I release (worry, self-doubt, fear, anxiety)
My body is (strong, capable, ready, healthy, healing, fertile)
My mind is (calm, positive, powerful)
I love (myself, my partner, my body, my life)
20 Calming Affirmations to Increase Wellbeing and Happiness:
I breathe in relaxation, I breathe out tension.
My mind is calm, my body is relaxed.
I am more and more calm with each deep breath I take.
I release worry and know that this too, shall pass.
I am sending love and light for healing in the world.
I am attracting positive energy into my body.
I am free of anything that weighs me down.
I have the ability to overcome anxiety.
I am safe and in control.
I am freeing myself from stress.
I am relaxing each part of my body.
My body is calm.
I am able to go beyond what I thought were my limits.
Today, I will find joy in where I am.
I live my life hopefully.
I bring positivity to the lives of the people I know.
Today, I will face my fears and work to overcome them.
I will treat myself with kindness, patience, and respect.
My thoughts are peaceful and calm.
I let go of all negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones.
During difficult times, please remember to treat yourself with an abundance of kindness, love, and compassion.
“Nobody can bring you peace but yourself.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson
Author Bio: Dr. Tiffany Edwards, Clinical Psychologist and patient educator. In her career, she has worked with patients to address a wide variety of psychological and health-related issues such as anxiety, depression, cancer survivorship, women’s health issues, stress management and more.