Why do you want to share your story?
I want to share our story to help others know they are not alone and it can get better. There are for sure dark days and it’s okay to get down, but it’s so important to keep the end in sight. By hearing other people share their experiences it makes you feel less isolated. When you hear people have success going down the same path you did, it makes it seem possible and worth it for you!
What was your infertility diagnosis?
We had been diagnosed with unexplained infertility, which was very frustrating. After more time and other symptoms, both my OBGYN and FCI doctors now think I have endometriosis.
What fertility treatment did you undergo?
We spent a year trying and working with my OBGYN, then were sent to FCI. We tried cycles with Clomid and then moved on to IUI. Dr. Feinberg thought only IVF would work at that point so we moved to that. After a fresh cycle IVF round we got pregnant with our son! We are now trying for number two. We went through a frozen embryo transfer that was successful. Unfortunately, I had a miscarriage and lost the baby at 9 weeks. We tried another round of FET but it had to be canceled right before the transfer as things didn’t look right. I had a hysteroscopy this week and Dr. Rodgers “scratched” my uterus to help with implantation. Fingers crossed this is the round!
What helped you get through treatment?
My husband and both our families were a huge source of support. My husband gave me all of my shots and was there for everything. I also found keeping a positive attitude was a huge help. There are lots of ups and downs in infertility and it can be hard not to get down. But the more I was able to keep a positive attitude and find the silver linings, the better I felt. I also tried to keep my sense of humor throughout the whole process.
Can you tell us about your little miracle?
Conor was born five weeks early in June 2015. Luckily he didn’t have any big complications and was only in the NICU for a week. He was well worth every shot, procedure, and tear. He is full of energy and always moving. Conor is a big talker and it has been so much fun to see his personality come out. He is a ball of positivity and happiness and brings us such joy! (An update after writing these answers: I am pregnant with baby number two and due May 26, 2018!)
Why did you trust Fertility Centers of Illinois?
My OBGYN recommended them and we really liked everyone we worked with. I was first afraid of the size of the practice but it has not been a problem. I go in so much I have gotten to know everyone who works there and they greet me by name. The staff at the Highland Park office is wonderful and they help make the whole process that much easier. The doctors have worked with us to come up with a plan we agree with and understand.
Which physician treated you and what were your experiences with him/her?
We started with Dr. Feinberg in 2014 to have our son. She was great to work with. We are now working with Dr. Rodgers to have our second child. She is very personable and knowledgeable. I really liked how they both understood what we were going through and could share their infertility journeys.
What words of hope do you have for others?
There is no doubt the infertility journey is frustrating and difficult. It is so hard to open social media and see another friend is pregnant. You are happy for them but can’t understand why it can’t be you. Don’t let it get you down! There are so many ways that you can become parent, you are just taking a harder path. But it makes it so much more exciting when you finally hold your child. You won’t remember everything you went through, just that it is so worth it. Don’t give up and keep that positive attitude!