We tried for a year, but didn’t have a pregnancy. I was 33 years old and I didn’t know where to start, but I knew I wanted a baby. I started asking my friends if they knew anyone that had been through IVF. To my surprise, a handful of my friends had gone through IVF to have their children, and most of them had seen a doctor at Fertility Centers of Illinois. One friend had become very close with Dr. Eve Feinberg, and other friends were seeing her as well, so I decided to make an appointment.
Dr. Feinberg let us know that my husband looked fine, but I wasn’t producing enough hormones on my own. I was placed on hormone medications to stimulate production and induce ovulation, and we did a couple IUI’s (intrauterine insemination), but did not have a pregnancy.
After that, I was “upgraded” to IVF. I took it hard. I had thought getting pregnant wouldn’t be a problem, but it was tough to accept that I needed to do IVF. But I felt comfortable with Dr. Feinberg, and every staff member I worked with was wonderful. This made the process easier for me. I knew I had picked the right group to take care of me.
I am not unfamiliar with the medical world. I come from a family of doctors, have worked in several medical offices, and unfortunately, have many different ailments. I mention this because I have never met a doctor and staff that was on the level of Dr. Feinberg and the Fertility Centers of Illinois staff. It takes a special staff to understand what people are going through the way that they do. They make you feel as comfortable as you can possibly feel when going through IVF. This helped me get stronger and go through the process with a better attitude. I never felt alone. I felt like I had a family.
After the first round of IVF, I wasn’t expecting to be pregnant. But much to our surprise, the first round of IVF was successful! I was so excited and so happy to be pregnant, yet oddly enough, kind of sad. The last day in the FCI offices, I cried a lot. They were tears of joy for our baby, and tears of sadness because after a year and a half of treatment, I knew I wouldn’t be seeing Dr. Feinberg and her staff anymore.
But after seeing other patients experience the same thing, I knew that I wasn’t alone. Every now and then you see a patient crying in the halls, and often it is because they are “graduating” to the next step.
Going through treatment is a life-changing process, and I am a different person. Before treatment I was someone who needed to be in control of everything, to make everything perfect. Treatment forced me to relax and let nature and science takes its course.
I never thought I could be a “go with the flow” kind of person, and I am grateful for a new attitude and mindset. I learned valuable life lessons that I have been struggling with my whole life, and now I can relax more and better deal with complicated situations.
Truthfully, I think the experience has groomed me for parenthood. If I had gotten pregnant naturally, I don’t know if I would have learned those lessons.
Our baby is due on August 8th and we are very excited to have our bundle of joy join the family.
If you are trying for a baby, remember that it’s important to have the right people behind you. There is so much you can’t control in this process, but you can control who you surround yourself with. For me, having the right team is what helped me stay strong and positive through a difficult time. I wish you the best of luck, and send you support and compassion on your journey.